By Sandra Gonzalez, CNN
(CNN) — In May 1981, a 26-year-old photographer named Michele Singer took a meeting with Jerry Bowles, then editor of a business magazine in New York.
She had worked her way up from being a photographer’s assistant — a grungy gig that involved a lot of carrying heavy equipment and running errands — and was looking for more commercial jobs. Her portfolio highlighted her talent in design and composition, and impressed him.
Having been educated at a bilingual French school on the Upper East Side, she spoke the language fluently, as well as Spanish, which she had learned on her own. Though she’d skipped college, she was well-read. And she was generous, something that came through when Michele pulled out the portfolio of another photographer during her meeting with Bowles. The person was a friend, and she wanted him to see their work, too.
Bowles had met with hundreds of photographers, and he’d never seen someone do that before.
“She was the first person to be that generous,” Bowles, now 82, told CNN.
But the thing that struck him most, he said, “was she seemed like a young person who had a great sense of who she was and what she wanted to be.”
“I knew somebody this beautiful, this smart, this clever was going to do well.”
An air of wisdom and authority beyond her years made Michele well suited to deal with photo subjects from the corporate world like real estate tycoon Samuel Jayson LeFrak and then-future president Donald Trump, whose portrait she shot for the cover of his 1987 book, The Art of the Deal.
“There was nobody I had ever worked with who did better portraits,” Bowles said, not even “guys who were giants in those days.”
Of course, Michelle Singer, later Reiner, ultimately became a giant herself — a powerful activist, a devoted mother and, with her husband Rob Reiner, part of a Hollywood couple who so much of the country is mourning after their tragic deaths last weekend.
Their son Nick has been charged with two counts of first-degree murder.
Before that tragic night, when a family was plunged into a horrifying nightmare, Michele Reiner built a life based on service, love and devotion to a better world.
Justice, for all
Michele Reiner was, in her husband’s words, “an irate citizen.”
“There’s just too much injustice in the world, and she wants to fix it all,” Rob Reiner said on Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue’s podcast in 2022.
The Hollywood couple’s names often appeared side-by-side in press releases for their efforts in early childhood education, marriage equality, the arts and environmental conservation, to name a few. But Rob Reiner wanted everyone to know that Michele Reiner, his wife of more than three decades, was the driving force.
“She basically stands behind me and kicks me in the ass all the time — ‘Why don’t you do something? You’re a celebrity. You can talk! Get out there and do something,’” the celebrated director said, earning laughs while accepting a Lifetime Achievement award in 2011 from GLSEN, an LGBTQ nonprofit. “So, I listen to what she says.”
Michele Reiner stood next to him, smiling, until he told the crowd she was “petrified” to be on stage because “this is not what she does.” That earned him an eye roll. Hers were famous, according to Kris Perry, a former executive director of First 5, an early childhood education program made possible by the Reiners’ support of a proposition that created a cigarette tax to fund support for families with children ages 0-5.
“You could just see behind the scenes that she very much had an idea of what they should be doing and very much was encouraging him — or pushing him — to go a little further, do a little bit more,” said Perry. “And a